AndJustLikeMolly

  Hello Friends                 It has been a hot minute since I’ve written anything for my blog but it’s been for the very best. I still love writing on here so please don’t think that I don’t. I’ve been truly focused on myself because if I have learned anything at all it is indeed that self care is truly important especially during difficult times.  Before I get into more in depth stuff about me    I want to share that my sweet Odie won a pet photo contest for one of our local papers which is The Dayton Daily News. His category was Best Caught In The Moment so he is now a celebrity and I could not be more proud of him  🫶🐾 This time away from blogging and less screen time overall has helped me on my personal journey of finding myself. While I am still on that journey because I have felt very lost, this break has helped me fall in love with things that I’ve missed. I have fallen all over again with reading books, learnin...

  I know the title can give someone the wrong idea but for this specific blog post I thought it was perfect. I hope I am not all alone in this. I have done something for a long time and that thing is saying the words ‘’ I’m sorry ‘’. I just didn’t realize how often I did it or even why until recently.  I recently asked someone why they think I apologize and they said it was a major effect of trauma. It is also referred to as ‘’ apologizing for existing ‘’. I’ve had a lot of trauma in my life unfortunately and it sucks majorly. Until recently I didn’t know how often I wasn’t aware of just how often and when I say often I mean often. It is as if those two words are the only words I know how to say. It is quite sad if I am being honest  I know it’s annoying to those who know I do this. It’s something I cannot help. I was aware I had a lot of trauma but I had no idea it would cause this for me.  I know the words ‘’ I’m sorry ‘’ doesn’t seem that bad to most but when you ...

  May is Mental Health Awareness which is one of my favorite causes to support. It’s also very near and dear to my heart  🫶     I’m so glad because mental health is very important because it needs to be talked about more  Personally I struggle with anxiety and depression which sucks majorly. Anxiety attacks are no fun. Feeling depressed isn’t fun either. If you struggle my heart is with you because I know how you feel in a way.  I really wish awareness for mental health wasn’t so stigmatized. There are so many people out there in the world suffering because they are too afraid to ask for help because of the stigma around it. I also think it should be available to everyone that needs it not to mention more affordable and very good. Everyone deserves help for this. Mental health is truly no joke. When someone’s life is at stake due to this, when is it enough!? I truly pray that those who cause trauma and cause mental health related issues or just make them w...

  Mom,         I want to thank you for everything for the last 26 years.  Thank you for always being supportive especially when I decided to start my blogging journey. Thank you for all the advice you have given me. Thank you for being my best friend. Thank you for always listening especially when I need it the most. Thank you for braiding my hair and learning to help me with a new hairstyle. Thank you for always proof reading my blog posts to make sure they are perfect. Thank you for attending    events so I can meet my favorite sports players. Thank you for introducing me to the best music and movies especially the classics which are the best ;) Thank you for sharing a love in autographed memorabilia especially from our favorites. Thank you for letting me tell you about who I adore at the moment. Thank  you for helping me through this time of the depths of grief. Thank you for letting me send you all the memes. Thank you for allowing me to ...

    I recently took a selfie of me with my naturally curly hair and absolutely no makeup or filters. My eyes are very blue but in this photo my eyes look gray. I sent it to my mom before posting it because I wanted a little reassurance it looked okay. She said it was a really good one of me but I looked sad in it. It was a wake up call for me as I have personally suffered with depression for a long time.    I’ve learned over time you have to do stuff to help yourself even if you seek professional help and it makes for much better results. Grief has taken me over ever since I lost my grandfather whom I loved dearly. I’ve also lost a few other incredible people in my life along with some amazing dogs.  Some things that have helped me are to try hard to shift your focus on the what is instead of the what was but it is certainly not easy especially for me as I am still learning to adjust. I suggest finding a hobby that helps you take your mind. It could be anything ...

 I call this post ‘’ Life Is Too Short So Enjoy It!  ‘’ because it simply is very true. The past couple weeks have been extremely difficult for me as I navigate my way through what or I should say how I like to explain it as a huge storm of grief and I’m stuck in it. I am personally an emotional person and so when I feel things, I feel them deeply.  This week I’ve really thought about how amazed I am how much you can miss someone. It doesn’t matter if you knew them your whole life or even just seen them for a few minutes every once in awhile. For me personally I miss people who were in my entire life until the moment they unfortunately passed away and some only for a short period of time but in the end it doesn’t really matter because I grieve over them just as much.  Grief is simply not a one size fits all kind of thing. I’ve learned that some people really need to learn that in my personal experience with grief. Some may be okay and be able to just move one while o...

  Who has trouble making decisions especially when it comes to what to wear or anything like that!? I know I do! Lately here though I have been working on that personally because a few weeks ago my mom sent me an article about how letting decisions take over leads us to what is called decision fatigue and it takes away    better thinking from us. In my personal opinion I don’t think that’s good and it doesn’t help us at all. It also talked about helping us decrease the chances of getting decision fatigue by having what some people call a capsule wardrobe will call it that are primarily pieces of clothing that are more neutral color based and are essentially very similar to each other if not the exact same pieces. Of course you can add pops of color whenever you choose to do ( I personally love pops of color! ) You also might have an event you want to wear a special color dress or anything for. The less time you decide on what to wear the more you can use your brain energy...